You need love to exist, to survive. In the Wise Woman Tradition, love is a crucial aspect of optimum nutrition. Forgive yourself, better yet, enjoy yourself for your attempts to get love. Understand that your fights, with your beloveds feel like life-and-death struggles because they are for certain parts of yourself.

Our attempts to give love unconditional are usually stratagems for extracting love from the universe or another person.

The inner well of need for love and nurturance seems like a bottomless pit when we first gaze down it alone, with no one else to blame for our echoing hollowness. With each act of lovingkindness for ourselves, it fills. Slowly the pit becomes at least visible. Others don’t seem to be the sources of our pain so often.

As we love ourselves, and nourish all aspects of ourselves, a rare compassion is nourished, a tender compassion for everyone and everything. We are filled with compassion. We forgive ourselves deeply. And we realize that everyone who ever wronged us was a healer, a teacher, a lover of ours. The heart bursts with compassion. The floodgates of love spill over.

Once we have filled ourselves with unconditional love, once we agree to love and nurture all aspects of ourselves, we emit the energy of unconditional love. We don’t do anything particular, yet the beings around us feel this love. Just by being, we resonate love and health/wholeness/holiness.